Discuss the title of the book. What saying is it derived from, and what is it referring to in the novel itself?

Who is the protagonist in the book? The antagonist? Do any characters change roles over the course of the story?

Each of the three Grey sisters has a specific role she carries out within the family. Do you think the sisters’ responses to events in their lives stem from who they inherently are or from the roles they have adopted? How much do their personalities and roles influence each other?